From a debilitating fear of being seen to growing a 6-figure business

Have you ever felt like your whole body wants to shut down the second you think about posting a video or showing your face online?

Like your throat closes up, your heart races, and you want to run and hide?

That was me too.

In this episode, I’m telling the real story of how I went from shaking on camera and barely being able to speak…

to confidently selling on video, growing my business, and bringing in consistent $20K months.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why your fear of being visible is not just a confidence thing, and the real reason your body feels unsafe online.
• How I reprogrammed the fear and shifted my energy so I could actually show up, sell, and feel good doing it.

The exact method I use with my one-on-one clients to help them grow past their current income level and finally hit $10K, $20K or even $50K months.

If you are done playing small and know it is time to stop hiding, this episode will show you what is really holding you back and what to do about it.

And if you want to work with me one-on-one, just email me the word MINDSHIFT to apply.

Transcript

0:05

Welcome to the Empowered Edupreneur Podcast. My name is Michelle Smit, and I'm a business growth mentor and subconscious transformation coach. I work with established women in business who are ready to scale beyond what they ever thought was possible, helping them grow thriving businesses that feel as good as they look. If you're ready to elevate your identity, unlock your subconscious power and combine it with aligned strategy to create limitless results with more ease, freedom, and impact, then you're in the right place. Think of this podcast as your weekly dose of mindset upgrades and business expansion that will unlock your next level and help you thrive on your terms. We're going to have so much fun together. So thank you for pressing play today. Now let's dive in. Hello. Hello my friend. So good to have you here with me today, and I am pulling back the curtain on something that I believe everyone in business secretly wrestles with, but we don't speak about it enough. And when I think about my clients and the work that I do with my clients, I see this come up over and over and over again. It's one of the things that holds us back from creating success in our. And that is the fear, the deep, deep fear of being seen. And not just seen, but like fully seen in your power on camera, in your truth, authentically just being who you are, your personality, your beliefs, your values, your views in your marketing as you sell your offer. If you've ever felt yourself, freeze, shrink, avoid the spotlight. This literal feeling of anxiety and dread in your body. When you think about scaling your business and getting more eyeballs on your work and having more people in your webinars or your launches, then this is the episode for you. I'm sharing the real story of how I went from shaking on video, choking on my words, to selling thousands of digital courses and making hundreds of thousands of dollars and confidently doing these incredible launches with ease. And I'm going to walk you through my exact millionaire mind shift method that I use with my one-on-one clients to dissolve these visibility wounds that really, really block us from our next income level. So let's go back I had just moved to the Netherlands and Money was really tight. I was not making enough. I was an online teacher. And at that point I started my business, my online business because it was really my only option. I had to find a way to make money. I couldn't get a job in the Netherlands. So I signed up with my first mentor online. Thank God I found his Facebook ad online. Because it changed my life. And I was super excited, but absolutely terrified. Had no idea what I was getting myself into. And he in the beginning of the program, we had to record a video, introduce ourself and post it in the Facebook group. And this sounded harmless. But for me, this was debilitating. I was so, so, so anxious. Now, my whole life I had avoided being seen, giving speeches at school, I hated it. I would freeze. My throat would choke up. It would cause me insane amounts of anxiety. Speaking at my best friend's 21st or my sister's 30th. Oh, I remember it. It was like torture. Just the idea of people looking at me was not good. Like I wanted to hide. I did not want to be. Watched and looked at, it was terrifying. And now I have to post a video in a Facebook group to complete strangers. And I had never done anything like this before. I'd never spoken to a camera before. And I remember recording this video and I couldn't breathe, like my voice froze. It felt like someone was strangling me. And I had to keep recording the video over and over again. And I still hated the outcome, but then I ended up posting it and that was the first time I had to face this fear. And I actually watched that video a few years ago, and it was cringe. It was real cringe. So embarrassing. Because I was so stuck in fear. I had such a lack of confidence. My energy was just, ugh, it was a hot mess. But I was having a very physical reaction, like my heart race, my throat tightened. My breath shallowed and my palms got sweaty. It was like I was being attacked by a lion and I didn't really know it back then, but this was a full on nervous system response. My brain thought I was under attack, like there was a literal line in the room and I was about to get molded. But it was just me, my phone and recording a video. I was completely safe. And then I had to launch a course. So this was what I was doing with my mentor. The whole goal was for me to launch a course. And within four months from me posting that video, I had done my first launch and I had to get in front. I had to go live on Facebook in this launch, and it was absolutely terrifying. I can't even tell you like going live on Facebook in front of a bunch of strangers selling something when you've never done it before is like your worst fear. And the thing is you're literally live. It's like being on tv. You just have to go with it. Whatever happens happens. And I just remember having to click that go live button and my body was in such distress. I was so scared, and I just had to do it. I knew I had to do it. I just had to go. I just had to push, go live, and it was grueling. But I did it. And what actually made a big difference for me back then is before every video I had to do every live, I had to do every sort of thing where I had to get visible in front of people, and I was deeply, deeply afraid. I would not schedule anything for the hour before that thing. I would be just grounding myself, I would breathe, breath work, breath work, breath work, and I would meditate. And at that point I didn't even know what nervous system regulation was back then like that. That's like a buzzword now. Everyone talks about it now, but back then that was not a thing. But I just intuitively knew that I had to create safety in my body. I had to regulate myself. I had to remind my body and tell myself that I am safe. I am safe. I am safe. And so I did that for every video. I would do breath work. Or meditation, and I would chant this mantra. I'm safe. I'm safe, I'm safe, and I'd almost self-soothe myself. This shift didn't happen overnight, but it did slowly happen. I got to a point where showing up on videos is literally my favorite thing. Talking in front of people, especially on camera, is just so natural. It is so natural for me to be on camera and to talk and share my voice now. And I've been able to now grow a business that sold over a thousand digital products and made six figures in multiple courses. And it's allowed me to really lead with impact, ease, and alignment. But, it started with terror. It was a wound and one of my biggest things that I had to overcome in order to have the success that I have today. And I knew that if I wanted to have success, then I had to create safety in being seen if I wanted to lead myself and create the life that I wanted. Now, looking back. I truly, truly wish I had the tools that I have today. I wish I had mind shifting back then because what I know now and what I guide my clients through today is so deep with mind shifting and it's so rapid and can be so profound. That it can really just shift things completely. So what I realized is that fear of visibility, it's not logical. It's not about necessarily confidence or those confidence helps. It's really about the subconscious. I went the conscious route and I just pushed through and pushed through and pushed pursue until I got confident. But it took a long, long time for me to shift Now with mind shifting. It's powerful because we work with a subconscious mind, and so what's happening is subconsciously, there is an identity or a belief that's formed in your subconscious, in your psyche that has been formed from somewhere in your past. And it might not even be in your past. It could even be in your lineage, like our ancestral lineage. As women we have a lot of heavy lineage of women being burned at the stake for showing up in their power. And we were called witches and murdered. And so we have a lot to carry just generationally. And so in our psyche, we have this story that it isn't safe to be seen, that it's a threat. That we are under threat to be seen in our full power. And for me, what I can remember when I was a child. I had a choir performance and I ended up having like food poisoning or something and I had to run off stage and I ended up vomiting in front of everyone. And I have this insane, vivid feeling of it, in my body. I can think about it and I can feel it. And the humiliation I felt and the shame I felt in that moment. And after that, I was very, very traumatized. I quit the choir. When I was a kid, I wanted to be an actor. I never wanted to do anything in front of people anymore. And that was when it started. My deep, debilitating fear of being seen because of that humiliation. So that locked into my psyche, it locked into my nervous system and my body. And it became this really, really deep fear. A wound and a memory and something that impacted me and kept me playing small for a long, long, long time. Only until I started my business did I actually start really stepping into my power in any shape or form. I always wanted to be hidden. I was like the underdog. I didn't want anyone to look at me. Now that I realize this, obviously at the time I didn't realize this, but looking back, I realized this is what was happening. And if I had just worked with my subconscious mind and I had started to clear those deep. Beliefs and identities and memories and dissolve them at the root, which is what mind shifting does. Then I would've overcome it much quicker. And I would've trained myself. Once you dissolve that subconsciously you train your body for safety. Your body no longer perceives going in front of people as a major threat. That story gets dissolved. And when that happens, just something beautiful happens. And you don't just get better at speaking in front of people or being on video or whatever, but you truly become a woman who is safe, being seen. Safe being seen in your power, in your conviction, in your confidence, in your clarity. And when you can step into that energy of truly being safe to be who you are, to be seen and showing up in the world online like that your clients feel that. That energy is magnetic. People want that. People are attracted to that and people are inspired by that. And you not only make more sales as a result of course, but you actually lead women into their power by doing it. So there's this beautiful ripple effect that happens when you show up in your full authenticity and you give women the permission slip to do it themselves. That is really, really a powerful ripple of transformation that happens. And I'm just really passionate about doing this with women because I can see the potential in so many women. And I can see that the blocks and the fears and the beliefs and the wounding is keeping them playing small and it's entrenched in their body. It's entrenched in their subconscious. And for me to be able to work with that to help them dissolve that so that they can free themselves of the chains that are keeping them trapped. So that you can experience more of your wholeness, more of your limitlessness more of your abundance. Almost at a soul level, that is what we are. It's really quite a spiritual experience when you can get to that wholeness. And mind shifting helps you get to that wholeness so you can experience your fullness and you aren't being trapped by stories and beliefs and things that are impacting you daily. And that's why I created the Millionaire Mind Shift Experience. This is for women who have hit a plateau in their business. So you've made money, but you keep making the same amounts of money like five KA month, 10 KA month, 20 KA month, whatever that upper limit is, and you're struggling to scale past that. We look at where you're at, and then we look at where you want to go. So say you're at 10 KA month and you want to get to 20 K or 30 KA month. We look at that and then we create a strategy, a roadmap, and a game plan to get there. But in that journey, it's going to bring up a lot of your beliefs. I'm not good enough. Imposter syndrome, all this stuff. All this fear around money, all this guilt, all this stuff that's going to come up in the process. And then we work with the subconscious mind to dissolve these step-by-step. So we dissolve the blocks holding you back. The visibility, fear, the fear of being seen. We create safety in you being seen. We dissolve the beliefs. I'm not good enough. And we start removing these subconscious blocks from your psyche, as you start implementing the strategy. And when we work energetically and strategically, magic happens. And of course there will be sematic work in terms of EFT, tapping and things like that when you want to regulate yourself so that your body can feel safe as you scale. Because if you keep hitting the same income ceiling. And you think about, oh, getting more visible, say you want to run ads and you want to run a lot more ads, and you want to get a lot more people into your launch, for example. But that causes you an immense feeling of dread and anxiety in your body. That indicates that there is a visibility block. You're not feeling safe at that next level, and that's what's going to keep you retreating back to playing small. And you're not going to feel safe enough to do the thing. And so what we want to do is we want to create that safety, we want to dissolve the story subconsciously. Create that safety, and then implement amazing aligned strategy so that you can step into your power, break through your upper limit, and create the income and impact that you desire, whatever that looks like for you. often people think, oh, it's another strategy. I'm missing some strategy piece. But no, it's not a strategy piece. And it might be a slight strategy piece, but the strategy is like the 5%, that's the easy part. It's actually your beliefs, your identity, the subconscious rewiring that needs to happen. And your energy and creating safety, that's like the main thing. Because that's the thing that's going to hold you back if you don't feel safe to move into the next level. You're going to sabotage yourself to do it. And so this is what we shift. So I help you identify the root wounds that you have which there'll be lots of different ones. And we will rewire those. We will dissolve them. We'll dissolve the beliefs and the fears. And even if it's a traumatic memory, we can dissolve that. That's entrenched in your body and your psyche. And then we build that internal safety to scale and then we plan out an aligned strategy. And I'm all about feminine business model vibes. I'm not talking about hustling and grinding. I'm talking about a strategy that really suits your energy, that feels good to you. That aligns with the way you want to live your life and the business you want to run. And we then implement it so that you've got the strategy and the energy piece so that you can step into your power. Sell with more ease. Increase your prices, show up with that energy of conviction and really show up and be seen. Because once you show up in your power and be seen, byproduct of that is incredible. I cannot tell you how much more success you'll have when you step into your power. So if you're listening to this and you're thinking, okay, this is resonating with me. This is something I really want to work on. Yes, you want the strategy and we can do that, but you actually want to go deep and you want to transform yourself. Really recalibrate yourself and dissolve the things that are keeping you deeply stuck. And you want to work one-on-one with me, then just send me an email with the word mind shift, or you can message me on substack with the word mind shift. And then I will personally send you the next steps to apply. This is the work that is deeply profound and I truly see it as a spiritual experience because I believe that we are whole and limitless in our nature. And when we were born, we are these limitless beings, and as we grow up, we take on these stories and things happen to us, and we pick up these identities and these beliefs and these memories, and they imprint on us subconsciously deeply. And those cage us. They cage us, they limit us. They stop us from experiencing the fullness of our potential and what we can do in this life. And by dissolving it and really stripping away, it's almost like stripping away that ego. We can really come to our fullness, our limitlessness. And in that power, in that energy, in that limitlessness, we can create. Magic in our lives. All right. I hope this story inspired you and just send me a message if you'd like to connect with me, work with me. Also, just send me a message if you enjoyed this episode and what came up for you in it, I love connecting with you. And have a beautiful rest of your day. Thanks so much for listening to today's episode. If you are an established woman in business who's ready to scale their business to the next level of success, and you don't just want strategy, you actually want deep, subconscious reprogramming and powerful identity shifts, then email me mind shift. And let's see if you are a fit for my Millionaire Mind Shift one-on-one container where I help you rewire your subconscious so you can become the woman who can create and hold incredible success visibility and wealth with ease. I appreciate you so much, and I cannot wait to connect with you in the next episode. In the meantime, go create a business and life you love.